Feminism and Being a “Girly” Girl

Hey Dreamers! Sorry, I haven’t been able to post. I’ve just been really caught up in NaNoWriMo and school and other things. Anyways, this post is about something I’ve been thinking of. A few days ago I thought to myself: Am I really a feminist? 

Who is a feminist? A feminist is someone who fights for women’s rights. Am I really a feminist? I’m not strong and athletic. I’m not super-smart. I’m not the kind of girl that proves stereotypes wrong and breaks barriers. In fact I’m a pretty stereotypical girl: quiet, loves to do art, calm, spends most of her time indoors, doesn’t like sports, I collect jewelry. I even kind of like dressing up and doing fun hairstyles for occasions. I am a “girly” girl. Am I a feminist? I hope I can be.

In most books, the mean girl is always “girly”. She likes to dress up, she’s dumb, she’s vain, loves the color pink. They show that being “girly”, is a weakness. If I like to dress up, it doesn’t mean that I only care about how I look, or that I’m vain or dumb. In most books, the “strong” girl is almost always : athletic, really good at sports, hates the color pink, likes being outdoors, smart. I think a girl can be “girly” and strong. Most books and movies fail to portray characters that are strong and “girly”. Being girly shouldn’t be something bad. I’ve met some girls who say that they hate pink because it’s so girly. They say they hate shopping or they hate dresses because they think that by hating “girly” things, they’re proving stereotypes wrong and being feminists. But, aren’t feminists supposed to be showing everyone that they should embrace all girls for who they are? I’m sick of girly girls being shown as mean or weak. Being strong doesn’t always mean being physically strong.  What about being strong on the inside? All girls are strong on the inside. I want all girls to be portrayed strong in both ways.

I’m not saying that being a tomboy is a bad thing. It’s an amazing thing. But I feel like this is something that isn’t said a lot and I want to put it out there. I hope you think about this and I hope that from now on girly girls are shown to their full potentials. Remember: being girly is NOT a bad thing and it is NOT a weakness. It can also be a strength. Everyone is unique.

Just because I’m girly,

It doesn’t mean that I love pink

Just because I like jewelry,

doesn’t mean that I’m vain

Just because I like to dress up,

It doesn’t mean that I only care about how I look

Just because I’m not athletic,

doesn’t mean that I’m not strong

Just because I’m not outspoken,

doesn’t mean I can’t be a feminist

I am “girly”

but I’m also strong

And this who I am.

I hope you guys liked this post.

What are your thoughts on this? Are you a girly girl, tomboy or both?

Tell me in the comments.

Bye!

~Arunima

 

 

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Dance in the Rain

It was raining so hard,

I was sitting by the window

counting drops of rain

 

Thinking in my head

about the rainbows 

that lie ahead

 

Smiling to myself

hoping someday

there’ll be sunshine

 

Then I asked myself

“Why should I wait?”

for sunshine and rainbows

When I can just

dance in the rain

 

CWWC #7~ Just a Dream

Hey Dreamers! I’m sorry I didn’t post #6, but I had school. I didn’t want to miss another one, so here I am. I used all three prompts.

 

Closed my eyes and

walked through the gate

Entered a dream

and saw a land,

Where the city kids had hair

every shade of the rainbow

And their eyes sparkled

every minute of the hour

  

There were rides,

there were slides,

there was fun

via

I felt a feeling

I hadn’t felt

in a long time

It was “Joy”

I was happy

I was

having fun

It was paradise

 

 

But then

there flashed 

a sign

“Leave Immediately”

it said

 

I closed my eyes

in despair

And when 

I opened them

I was 

in my

bedroom

 

 

As I sat

on my bed

I realized

It was a dream

 

As upset

as I was

I knew 

that dreams

had to end

sometime

 

They were nice

and they made

you feel like

your life wasn’t 

a mess

 

But they were dreams,

They weren’t real

And as fun as dreams were,

I knew 

that

I’d

have to

wake up

and

face 

reality

♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥

I hope you liked it. Constructive criticism? Tell me in the comments. Have a nice day.

Best Friends Forever

Hey Dreamers! This post is dedicated to my IRL Best Friend: Saanika

I don’t even know how to start. She is one of the sweetest people you’ll ever meet and I’m so grateful that we met. This is for you:

Change and Friendship

I’m not the

YOUNG

AND

NAIVE

girl I used to be,

The

SHORT

SQUEAKY VOICED

AND

SHY

girl you used to know

two years ago

A lot can change in two years

 

You’re not the

LITTLE

SWEET

AND

TALKATIVE

girl who wore pigtails,

You’re not the girl

I used to know

two years ago

A lot can change in two years

 

But the one thing

that didn’t change

Is our friendship

that grew stronger

as we were apart

 

We might change

a hundred times,

but I hope

our friendship

stays the same

 

We’ll change together

support each other

and become

something beautiful

♥Our Friendship will never change♥

Everyone needs a friend like Saanika. A sweet and quirky girl, who’s always there for you. When I moved, she kept in touch all the time, sometimes because of the time difference she used to call in the middle of the night. When we met again I was sure without a doubt, that it would be one of those moments that you know you’ll be friends forever. Our connection was still there. And we never ran out of things to talk about. That’s my favorite thing about her: I can always be with her and I’ll never be bored.

Sometimes when we video chat we are both quiet for a second not knowing what to say. But after that second we burst out laughing. Whenever I talk with her it feels like nothing else matters. I love her and miss her so much. I’ll walk the edge of the world for her.

I remember the day I met her. Me and my other friend were collecting seeds on the school ground (yes, I used to collect seeds). And she was new. She came and joined us and our friendship just grew.

Click here to see her blog. She doesn’t post a lot, but that’s okay.

Comment below your favorite thing about your best friend.

Art of Nature

As golden as the sunset glow
As serene as the sea
As beautiful as roses
Blazing like the embers,
As sweet as strawberries
As bright as a shooting star
As new as the morning sun
As rare as an eclipse
The Art of Nature

Hey Dreamers! This is a poem I had written a while ago and later on entered it in Mirra’s nature poetry contest. Thoughts?

Change the World

She lit up the world with a smile,

Happiness spread to every mile

Though it be rain or shine,

She was always very kind

Always so sweet and thoughtful,

it made the world more colorful

She was just a simple girl

but she changed the world

Hey Dreamers! I’m finally back!!! The last few weeks have been especially trying and I am so glad to get back to blogging again. Bye!

Inspiration

Inspiration,

Like a spark from fireworks

a dazzling space

flutters around

like a butterfly with grace

A wonderful creation,

waiting to be made

Nature’s great mystery

hope it’ll never fade

It can come from

wishing or walking the grounds,

It can come from

humming or hearing sweet sounds

The greatest creations

were created by,

Creators who were inspired 

and looked up at the sky

♥♥♥