Feminism and Being a “Girly” Girl

Hey Dreamers! Sorry, I haven’t been able to post. I’ve just been really caught up in NaNoWriMo and school and other things. Anyways, this post is about something I’ve been thinking of. A few days ago I thought to myself: Am I really a feminist? 

Who is a feminist? A feminist is someone who fights for women’s rights. Am I really a feminist? I’m not strong and athletic. I’m not super-smart. I’m not the kind of girl that proves stereotypes wrong and breaks barriers. In fact I’m a pretty stereotypical girl: quiet, loves to do art, calm, spends most of her time indoors, doesn’t like sports, I collect jewelry. I even kind of like dressing up and doing fun hairstyles for occasions. I am a “girly” girl. Am I a feminist? I hope I can be.

In most books, the mean girl is always “girly”. She likes to dress up, she’s dumb, she’s vain, loves the color pink. They show that being “girly”, is a weakness. If I like to dress up, it doesn’t mean that I only care about how I look, or that I’m vain or dumb. In most books, the “strong” girl is almost always : athletic, really good at sports, hates the color pink, likes being outdoors, smart. I think a girl can be “girly” and strong. Most books and movies fail to portray characters that are strong and “girly”. Being girly shouldn’t be something bad. I’ve met some girls who say that they hate pink because it’s so girly. They say they hate shopping or they hate dresses because they think that by hating “girly” things, they’re proving stereotypes wrong and being feminists. But, aren’t feminists supposed to be showing everyone that they should embrace all girls for who they are? I’m sick of girly girls being shown as mean or weak. Being strong doesn’t always mean being physically strong.  What about being strong on the inside? All girls are strong on the inside. I want all girls to be portrayed strong in both ways.

I’m not saying that being a tomboy is a bad thing. It’s an amazing thing. But I feel like this is something that isn’t said a lot and I want to put it out there. I hope you think about this and I hope that from now on girly girls are shown to their full potentials. Remember: being girly is NOT a bad thing and it is NOT a weakness. It can also be a strength. Everyone is unique.

Just because I’m girly,

It doesn’t mean that I love pink

Just because I like jewelry,

doesn’t mean that I’m vain

Just because I like to dress up,

It doesn’t mean that I only care about how I look

Just because I’m not athletic,

doesn’t mean that I’m not strong

Just because I’m not outspoken,

doesn’t mean I can’t be a feminist

I am “girly”

but I’m also strong

And this who I am.

I hope you guys liked this post.

What are your thoughts on this? Are you a girly girl, tomboy or both?

Tell me in the comments.

Bye!

~Arunima

 

 

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Stereotypes that I Hate

Hey Dreamers! I hope you are having a wonderful day. Before I start todays post I’d like to tell you guys that I will not be doing the photo story that I promised in one of my older posts. I know that it’s really irresponsible of me, but I don’t think the idea really excites me anymore. I’m really sorry but I will do the photo story series sometime later but not right now. Thanks for understanding.

Okay, now putting all that behind, for this post I will be sharing the stereotypes that I hate the most. First of all, you should not believe stereotypes. I believe everyone has the right to choose what they like and we shouldn’t judge people because of their looks, gender or skin. Let’ begin:

1.Girls are not good at sports.

Gender stereotypes are really wrong. I personally am not good at sports but that doesn’t mean other girls aren’t. Girls are just as athletic as any boy, and they could even be better at sports than some boys. I know some girls who are really good at sports and could beat any boy.

2. If you like reading and have good grades you’re a “nerd”/ If you wear glasses you’re a “nerd”

I can prove that this stereotype is wrong. The dictionary meaning of nerd is: a foolish or contemptible person who lacks social skills or is boringly studious.

And if you think that just because I have glasses means I’m a nerd you’re wrong. Wearing glasses does not affect your personality. Glasses are things that you wear when you can’t see well. You either have them or you don’t. It doesn’t matter and it doesn’t change who you are.

Just because I like reading, get good grades and wear glasses doesn’t mean I’m a nerd. I feel like this word is used in a wrong way most of the time, even in books and movies.

]3. Pink is a “girl” color and blue is a “boy” color

Most of the time when people think of a girl they think…pink! And when they think of a boy they think…blue! Personally I think this is absolutely ridiculous. Pink and blue are just colors. If you look around you’ll notice how many people believe that stereotype. Most of the toys for girls are pink and most of the toys for boys are blue. For children’s birthdays too, the girls decorations are mostly pink and boys are blue.

My mom told me that for my first birthday she had asked for blue balloons. But the people who were decorating the place got red balloons instead. When my mom questioned them he said ” We always do red for girls”.

Another story is when I was invited to a party of one of my classmates. I made him a card with a drawing of a birthday cake. I had colored it with lots of colors. When I gave it to him, he said “Next time don’t put pink on it.” I know he didn’t mean to offend me but it was really stereotypical.

4. Smart girls are not pretty and pretty girls are not smart

Let me start of by saying all girls are equally beautiful and smart. This stereotype is hurtful to all girls. And it’s not what’s on the outside that matters. It’s what’s on the inside that does.

5. Women need men to save them/ Women can’t save themselves

Many fairytales and Disney movies show that women are ‘damsels in distress’. In most of the fairytales and movies there’s always a man who rescues the woman. This gives the wrong idea to little girls. It makes them think that they need a man to save them. Little girls need to know that they are capable enough to save themselves.

 

Sorry if this was full of complaints. I just felt like I needed to get it out there. I feel like this is something important people should know, because stereotypes can be really hurtful and they are just lies. It really hurts when people believe these lies. Thanks for reading this far. If you are still reading this right now:

Comment below a stereotype that you hate.