Talent vs Hard Work

Hey Dreamers! I hope you’re having a wonderful day.

Today, I wanted to talk about something that I’ve been thinking about for a while. I’ve always heard people saying things like, “He/she is so talented!”, or “I wish I was as talented as her/him.” But, when someone says this, do they realize what they’re saying? The dictionary definition of talent is: natural aptitude or skill. Talent is when you’re naturally good at something. Talent gets you to certain point. But if you want to get beyond that point, it takes something more. It takes practice and hard work. Without practice and hard work, talent means nothing.

All of the greatest musicians, writers, engineers, artists, had to work hard to be successful. Sure, they might’ve been talented, but that’s not what got them where they wanted to be. They weren’t experts the moment they picked up the guitar or the moment they painted their first brush stroke. It took them more than a thousand tries to become as good as they are today.

Whenever you see someone’s work and say that you’ll never be as talented as them, keep in mind all the hard work and long hours they would’ve put into it. Don’t ever brush of hard work by saying that it’s talent. Don’t ever use the excuse that you’re not talented. You can do anything, as long as you’re willing to work hard for it.

Thank you for reading, that little rant. I hope you enjoyed it. ❤

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Why It’s Okay to Feel Upset Sometimes

Hey Dreamers! It feels good to be back! I know that it doesn’t seem like I was gone, but the last two posts were scheduled, because I was busy with this year’s Spelling Bee. I didn’t win, but it wasn’t a disaster like last time. And one of my good friends won! So, I’m really happy for her. Now, on to today’s post. This post might contradict my last rant which was about Optimism + Being Positive .

Today, I wanted to talk about why it’s okay to feel sad or angry sometimes. I see a lot of quotes on the internet that say “Keep Smiling” , and “Be Happy”, and stuff like that. But, the thing is, that it’s not mentally or physically possible to be happy al the time. While it is important to be positive and be optimistic, it is also important to be upset sometimes.

Sometimes, you need to shout or cry, to get what you’re feeling out. People will tell you to soak up your tears and they’ll tell you that crying won’t change anything. And it won’t, crying won’t change anything. But it will help. If someone tells you not to cry, or you tell yourself not to cry, remember that you are a human being. If you need to have a meltdown, it’s okay. Your life will not always be the best, and sometimes you just need a meltdown.

The last reason, I wanted to talk about was that, if you don’t show your emotions, you will bottle them up. You’ll dwell on it. And you’ll do it every. single. time. that you get hurt. And one day, that bottle will crack and your emotions will burst out. You might ending up saying things that you’ll regret and it will be a lot more painful. Maybe, if you let yourself cry or shout, it will hurt less. And once you’re done crying, you will feel better and you won’t dwell on it.

While it’s okay to be sad, don’t dwell on things. Bad things will always pass away. Cry, cry all you want. But never give up.

 

 

Optimism + Being Positive

Hey Dreamers! It’s been some time since I’ve done a rant and I really wanted to talk about something. So, here I am.

Today, I wanted to talk about optimism and being positive. I feel like it’s a concept that’s often misunderstood. Let’s start of by looking at what being optimistic means.

Being optimistic is . . .

  • Believing that the best is yet to come
  • Finding good in the bad
  • Making the best of every moment
  • Hoping for the best
  • And much more . . .

Now, let’s look at what being optimistic is not.

Being optimistic is not . . .

  • Being happy all the time
  • Being overconfident
  • Being oblivious

Why being optimistic/positive is important

I know a few people that sort of think that being positive is not really a good thing. And I do understand why. Some people think that if they are positive or they expect good things, they will be disappointed. I admit, I used to think that way for quite a while, until I learnt otherwise. I think being optimistic is important because, when you expect good things to happen, you’re most likely going to work hard to make good things happen. When you have high goals for yourself, and if you’re positive and believe that you can succeed, you will want to work hard so you can succeed. But, if you keep telling yourself that you can’t do it, you’re going to feel like giving up and then you’ll never be able to succeed.

I also think that it’s important to focus on the good things. I’m not saying that you can never be sad or upset, I also think it’s important to show your emotions, but I think that it’s not good to always dwell on the things that make you feel bad. If you keep focusing on the bad, then you will never be able to make the best of life. Always remember that things always get better, and if things aren’t going well, you are the only one that can change that.

Misconceptions

Imagine a positive person. Most people will imagine a girl in a pretty dress skipping through a field of daisies singing to herself. This is NOT what being positive looks like. Being positive doesn’t mean being happy all the the time. It means believing in making the best of every moment.  Some people think that optimistic people are oblivious and they don’t know about the bad things happening in the world. That’s not true, I consider myself to be a positive person and I do know all the issues of the world, I just choose to believe that someday things will get better. People also tend to think that optimists are always very confident about themselves. But that is not true. Being positive is not about “I am going to win”, it’s about “I am going to try my best.”

I hope you liked that post and I hope it gave you something to think about. What do you think about this? Tell me in the comments.

(Look who finally made a sign off)

Feminism and Being a “Girly” Girl

Hey Dreamers! Sorry, I haven’t been able to post. I’ve just been really caught up in NaNoWriMo and school and other things. Anyways, this post is about something I’ve been thinking of. A few days ago I thought to myself: Am I really a feminist? 

Who is a feminist? A feminist is someone who fights for women’s rights. Am I really a feminist? I’m not strong and athletic. I’m not super-smart. I’m not the kind of girl that proves stereotypes wrong and breaks barriers. In fact I’m a pretty stereotypical girl: quiet, loves to do art, calm, spends most of her time indoors, doesn’t like sports, I collect jewelry. I even kind of like dressing up and doing fun hairstyles for occasions. I am a “girly” girl. Am I a feminist? I hope I can be.

In most books, the mean girl is always “girly”. She likes to dress up, she’s dumb, she’s vain, loves the color pink. They show that being “girly”, is a weakness. If I like to dress up, it doesn’t mean that I only care about how I look, or that I’m vain or dumb. In most books, the “strong” girl is almost always : athletic, really good at sports, hates the color pink, likes being outdoors, smart. I think a girl can be “girly” and strong. Most books and movies fail to portray characters that are strong and “girly”. Being girly shouldn’t be something bad. I’ve met some girls who say that they hate pink because it’s so girly. They say they hate shopping or they hate dresses because they think that by hating “girly” things, they’re proving stereotypes wrong and being feminists. But, aren’t feminists supposed to be showing everyone that they should embrace all girls for who they are? I’m sick of girly girls being shown as mean or weak. Being strong doesn’t always mean being physically strong.  What about being strong on the inside? All girls are strong on the inside. I want all girls to be portrayed strong in both ways.

I’m not saying that being a tomboy is a bad thing. It’s an amazing thing. But I feel like this is something that isn’t said a lot and I want to put it out there. I hope you think about this and I hope that from now on girly girls are shown to their full potentials. Remember: being girly is NOT a bad thing and it is NOT a weakness. It can also be a strength. Everyone is unique.

Just because I’m girly,

It doesn’t mean that I love pink

Just because I like jewelry,

doesn’t mean that I’m vain

Just because I like to dress up,

It doesn’t mean that I only care about how I look

Just because I’m not athletic,

doesn’t mean that I’m not strong

Just because I’m not outspoken,

doesn’t mean I can’t be a feminist

I am “girly”

but I’m also strong

And this who I am.

I hope you guys liked this post.

What are your thoughts on this? Are you a girly girl, tomboy or both?

Tell me in the comments.

Bye!

~Arunima

 

 

Stereotypes that I Hate

Hey Dreamers! I hope you are having a wonderful day. Before I start todays post I’d like to tell you guys that I will not be doing the photo story that I promised in one of my older posts. I know that it’s really irresponsible of me, but I don’t think the idea really excites me anymore. I’m really sorry but I will do the photo story series sometime later but not right now. Thanks for understanding.

Okay, now putting all that behind, for this post I will be sharing the stereotypes that I hate the most. First of all, you should not believe stereotypes. I believe everyone has the right to choose what they like and we shouldn’t judge people because of their looks, gender or skin. Let’ begin:

1.Girls are not good at sports.

Gender stereotypes are really wrong. I personally am not good at sports but that doesn’t mean other girls aren’t. Girls are just as athletic as any boy, and they could even be better at sports than some boys. I know some girls who are really good at sports and could beat any boy.

2. If you like reading and have good grades you’re a “nerd”/ If you wear glasses you’re a “nerd”

I can prove that this stereotype is wrong. The dictionary meaning of nerd is: a foolish or contemptible person who lacks social skills or is boringly studious.

And if you think that just because I have glasses means I’m a nerd you’re wrong. Wearing glasses does not affect your personality. Glasses are things that you wear when you can’t see well. You either have them or you don’t. It doesn’t matter and it doesn’t change who you are.

Just because I like reading, get good grades and wear glasses doesn’t mean I’m a nerd. I feel like this word is used in a wrong way most of the time, even in books and movies.

]3. Pink is a “girl” color and blue is a “boy” color

Most of the time when people think of a girl they think…pink! And when they think of a boy they think…blue! Personally I think this is absolutely ridiculous. Pink and blue are just colors. If you look around you’ll notice how many people believe that stereotype. Most of the toys for girls are pink and most of the toys for boys are blue. For children’s birthdays too, the girls decorations are mostly pink and boys are blue.

My mom told me that for my first birthday she had asked for blue balloons. But the people who were decorating the place got red balloons instead. When my mom questioned them he said ” We always do red for girls”.

Another story is when I was invited to a party of one of my classmates. I made him a card with a drawing of a birthday cake. I had colored it with lots of colors. When I gave it to him, he said “Next time don’t put pink on it.” I know he didn’t mean to offend me but it was really stereotypical.

4. Smart girls are not pretty and pretty girls are not smart

Let me start of by saying all girls are equally beautiful and smart. This stereotype is hurtful to all girls. And it’s not what’s on the outside that matters. It’s what’s on the inside that does.

5. Women need men to save them/ Women can’t save themselves

Many fairytales and Disney movies show that women are ‘damsels in distress’. In most of the fairytales and movies there’s always a man who rescues the woman. This gives the wrong idea to little girls. It makes them think that they need a man to save them. Little girls need to know that they are capable enough to save themselves.

 

Sorry if this was full of complaints. I just felt like I needed to get it out there. I feel like this is something important people should know, because stereotypes can be really hurtful and they are just lies. It really hurts when people believe these lies. Thanks for reading this far. If you are still reading this right now:

Comment below a stereotype that you hate.